Dating just isn't my thing...

This evening I went on a "date" with this guy that I met on the bus back in November.

When I met him, he was the chatty one, asking me "what I did for fun around here" and "how can we keep in touch". SO I went with the flow and added him on Facebook. We corresponded minimally over Facebook until Christmas when he asked if he could have my number so he could call me. We talked very briefly on the phone and that was that until last weekend.

On Sunday night he left me this message saying that he hadn't talked me to in a while and now he is "depressed" and that I shoudl give him a call to "bolster his ego". I have to admit, I thought it was a little cheeky and I was intrigued. So I called him back a couple days later and we chatted and I asked him if he wanted to go for coffee this weekend, which we had talked about doing in a vague way over the holiday, and he said sure.

So today comes along and I meet him at Starbucks. We both paid for our own drinks; after what happens I am so glad I didn't offer to pay. We are chatting, talking about school and music and philosophical ideals and then casually, after about a half an hour he drops that "his girlfriend and him talk about that a lot". I was stunned but played it off cool. After we were done talking about that subject I said, "can I ask you a question? What does your girlfriend think of you going on coffee outings with random girls?". His response was something like she isn't very possessive and that they have been together FOR A WHILE and trust eachother.

From that point on I was just like "get me out of here". My heart sank a bit, because I rarely go on "dates" and I did my makeup and dressed up a bit and was having a really good hair day. I felt really embarrassed and like a fool for thinking it was a date, but I didn't let him know this. Luckily, I was going to the movies for a girls night at 6 so I had an excuse to get out of there fairly quickly.

The thing that bothers me the most...I would have never asked him if he wanted to go for coffee if I knew he had a girlfriend. I assumed he didn't have a girlfriend because on Facebook his relationship status says "single". I don't even have my relationship status showing, and if you are in a relationship and don't want to publicize it on Facebook, I would just set my status to not showing.

Well although I am a little embarrassed, on the bright side, even if he was single I wouldn't have been interested. One of the sexiest and most attractive things to me is intelligence and frankly, he just wasn't smart enough for me. I was talking circles around him and he just wasn't keeping up. Also, he made some douchey remarks about how he and his girlfriend have fake dating site profiles and like to lead people on for a joke. Definitely not cool.

Well, in the end I sent him a Facebook message, short and sweet saying:

I had a nice time today but I left feeling a bit confused. I was shocked to find out that you had a girlfriend, cause to be honest I would have never asked you to coffee if I knew you had one. You might want to think of changing your Facebook relationship status to stop this assumption from happening to others in the future.
Cheers.

Pretty formal, but I didn't want to come off emotional or crazy and I really felt like I needed to be forward and honest about how I felt, especially since I made it a point to bring up the fact that I am a very honest person before he dropped the bomb.

Anyway, I had a date last week with a guy I have been seeing off and on for two years and that was fun and definitely up to my standards. Unfortunately he lives out of town...well I guess not unfortunately cause I am really not looking for a relationship right now anyway.

But alas...dating just isn't my thing...